The one advantage of being from a family of cops is that you have a unique understanding of the entire policing culture. With a combined 70 plus years of policing experience between my brothers and me, we’ve had many conversations about the good, bad, and ugly of this profession. Without a doubt, the absolute worse and most seductive vice a police officer must resist is the “perceived entitlement” to basically do whatever you want, whenever you want, and to whomever you want. Every single police officer in the nation understands exactly what I mean.
You see, perceived entitlement is a very seductive mistress, empowering the policing culture the illusionary ability to “do no wrong” and to never admit guilt, fault, or weakness about anything, anywhere, or anytime. It’s that internal voice that allows police chiefs around the nation to never admit that systemic racism, homophobia, and a patriarchal culture actively exists among its own ranks. Perhaps even more telling, it provides the toxic climate where the policing culture feels justified to lie to, with, and for its very own benefit. The only time-tested method of keeping yourself free from the vice of perceived entitlement is to build diverse, sustainable, and truthful friendships with people far outside of the policing culture. They will keep your feet firmly on the ground, even when your head is immersed in the clouds of the policing cultural. #TruthandAccountability